Change?! They can’t do this to me!
How you react to change is up to you
I’m someone who knows that change can be both scary and good. I’m sure you also know this. But did you know that we can choose how we feel about change?
Managing your own feelings about any situation gives you the ultimate control over how you are able to tackle changes in life.
Change thrust upon you
This is the hardest change to adapt to; often involving something or someone at work and worst of all, if it’s presented without any apparent valid reason. Re-framing is an exercise in stepping back and taking a few seconds to analyse how you are going to feel about this. If you go along with your habitual self, you might moan and groan and feel awful about it until it beds in and becomes the new normal. Or, you can choose to embrace it, explore it and make a concerted effort to practise it until you are fully on board and comfortable with it. Only you can decide if that’s what you want to do.
No change has power over you
You can choose who or what has power over you. You are the one giving permission to others to hold that power over you by choosing to feel a certain way. You can choose to change the way you think and to make it clear to others that you are not giving them permission to take advantage of you or ask you to change without reason or explanation.
If something changes, you can ask yourself, “How will it affect me?”, “What can I do about it?” and “How can I make this work?” before allowing a habitual knee-jerk reaction take hold where you allow yourself to feel put-upon, used, not consulted and ordered about.
I’d like to challenge you to make a change in your life that means you re-take control over how you feel (children do it naturally but are trained to act in a certain way by school so that the teachers can control the pupils). Any changes you have been avoiding in your life (and you might have called yourself risk-averse to explain away your lack of action) can be studied, practised and embraced. And when changes happen to you, automatically think of them as good and see how you can make it work.
Don’t let change happen to you! You can be in control without being a control freak! Life is more enjoyable this way.